oh, geez. i read the first version of this at the kink meme and was seriously ambivalent about how much it hit my buttons and fed my id. bad feminist, i thought in one of my more shamed moments, no cookie. so i'm really glad and grateful that you added meta to this-- it's helped me to unpack, i guess is the word, some of my discomfort with genderfucked (het) sex and with (my kink for) such derogatory dirty talk. you've made me think a lot-- turned my disquiet into contemplation-- while also, let's face it, writing some of the hottest sex i've ever read. so, hey, thank you!