Both lj and fandom help me be more comfortable with my sexuality. It does sound strange, but fandom is one of the few places in which women talk about these things openly. It's sad but true.

My parents were a weird mixture of being really open but also strangely conservative. I think because of the way they were raised, they were uncomfortable with talking about sex, but they didn't want me to be that way. So they told me all about it and about my body when I was only about 3-5--but then once I knew what everything was they talked about it very little, and only referenced it as something that shouldn't be talked about aloud. My mom also told me sex was really beautiful and healthy and felt good, but that it's really wrong to have it with someone you're not married to or don't love.

I think it's alright if people feel that way but that they should be allowed to make that decision themselves, without their parents influencing their decisions.

But anyway, yeah. I think the most important thing is being able to talk. So I'm glad you did here.