Our audience was very polite about the m/f sex scene, which I also thought was more uncomfortable. Huh.
I see what you mean. a2zmom said that at imdb, most of the gay men appear to think the problems in the movie were caused by society's reaction to homosexuality, and most of the women thought it was Ennis. I'm trying to say I think it's both, but I thought that was interesting.
But I guess I have trouble saying it's not a flaw to be emotionally closed off. Some people are, and some can be happy that way, but it seems to me rather like they're getting lucky. That is, it's something natural and common, but I see it as like to being less smart than others are, or clumsy--or, like me, completely without street smarts/common sense. That is, we're all born with certain weaknesses, and some of them are things we should try to overcome.
I should clarify that I don't think natural quietness, or reserve, or a need to privacy, etc, are the same as being emotionally closed off. Some quiet people are accused of being so, but that's because whoever says isn't making an effort to really listen, or to read emotions that are expressed in other ways than words.
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I see what you mean.
But I guess I have trouble saying it's not a flaw to be emotionally closed off. Some people are, and some can be happy that way, but it seems to me rather like they're getting lucky. That is, it's something natural and common, but I see it as like to being less smart than others are, or clumsy--or, like me, completely without street smarts/common sense. That is, we're all born with certain weaknesses, and some of them are things we should try to overcome.
I should clarify that I don't think natural quietness, or reserve, or a need to privacy, etc, are the same as being emotionally closed off. Some quiet people are accused of being so, but that's because whoever says isn't making an effort to really listen, or to read emotions that are expressed in other ways than words.