No, I can't marry you. But you can eat some of my brain if I can eat some of yours :o)
I know what you mean about the way I'm framing myself. And I actually had compunction about that, because while I do consider myself both arrogant and selfish, I have a hard time admitting when I'm being a bitch. I'm a really loving person and I try really, really hard to be nice.
I just wanted to make it clear that this isn't about being nice. I actually think nice--the true meaning of the word, not what some in fandom twist it to mean--is in peasant_'s essay, linked above. She talks about how if we really want fandom to be a happy, shining place, it's our responsibility to make it so, and we should all be critiquing each other when we see problems, and all be constructive. The nice part of me agrees. The nice part of me thinks we should ALL be offering con crit and all be helping each other and all be improving together.
The selfish and arrogant (and lazy) part of me says no. I should clarify, though, that while those terms are negative in nature, I don't always view them as such. Sometimes I think of "arrogant" as "proud," and the take Mr. Darcy's view on it, back when he was snobby: "pride, where there is a true superiority of mind..." is a good thing. With me, it's less that there's a superiority of mind, and more about the idea that it's good to feel good about yourself. And there don't seem to be as many words in the English language that equate to "supremely confident" that don't also seem to mean "conceited."
As for "selfish", I'm not Ayn Rand, but I do think there are times when it's just as important to consider yourself as to consider others. Sometimes it's better to be reasonable than nice, and that's basically what the gist of the rant is.
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I know what you mean about the way I'm framing myself. And I actually had compunction about that, because while I do consider myself both arrogant and selfish, I have a hard time admitting when I'm being a bitch. I'm a really loving person and I try really, really hard to be nice.
I just wanted to make it clear that this isn't about being nice. I actually think nice--the true meaning of the word, not what some in fandom twist it to mean--is in
The selfish and arrogant (and lazy) part of me says no. I should clarify, though, that while those terms are negative in nature, I don't always view them as such. Sometimes I think of "arrogant" as "proud," and the take Mr. Darcy's view on it, back when he was snobby: "pride, where there is a true superiority of mind..." is a good thing. With me, it's less that there's a superiority of mind, and more about the idea that it's good to feel good about yourself. And there don't seem to be as many words in the English language that equate to "supremely confident" that don't also seem to mean "conceited."
As for "selfish", I'm not Ayn Rand, but I do think there are times when it's just as important to consider yourself as to consider others. Sometimes it's better to be reasonable than nice, and that's basically what the gist of the rant is.