Fellow curly girl sticking her nose into the conversation. Run, don't walk and get a copy of "The Curly Girl Handbook." Lots of great suggestions, treatments, etc. If your hair is as curly as it sounds like it is, stop using shampoo. Just use conditioner. I haven't used shampoo in three or four years. Best discovery ever. My hair doesn't get crazy frizzy. It doesn't get crazy volume (or at least not as crazy). That and Aveda humectant. Best product ever.