Hmm. Well, what I meant, was: I think Darla didn't understand that people could make *choices*. In her human life she probably ended up as she did because of her birth, or enforced circumstances; as a vampire, she just was who she was; as a human, all she could think about was getting herself back into a position where she *didn't* have a choice; she tried to get rid of Connor because she realized he was showing her she could be something else. She thought she was controlling her destiny, but she was really just following along.

So when Darla stakes herself to give him life, she *does* take fate into her own hands, she *does* make her own choice. And it's not until just then that she sees that.

So that when she comes back, what I loved is it that she wasn't trying to force Connor's hand. She was trying to show him that there were other options. Trying to show him, as he did for her, that he could choose to be someone else. And in the end, it was pointless. I just think there's a lot of tragic irony in that.

Angel would've just taken the choice out of his hands. Maybe the *real* Darla would've too, wouldn't've stood for what happened. But I like to think what we saw was Darla as she had finally become.