Yes, I think we'll have to agree to see things differently. Thanks for your thoughts on the matter. I'm glad to have them, because even though I think we disagree on several key points, like you I think that it is important to think of other people when speaking/posting. Even if in the end it does not change my viewpoint or what I say when posting, it helps me to better respond to people who feel as you do.

On that note, you have also been extremely helpful as regards the statement in the list of things I don't understand. Similarly to "how people keep up with their flists", I think lots of people have a different answer to this and that it's not something that has a universal answer. But, you brought up several ways people find out others are talking of them, I think most of which probably are the simplest answer, so yes, I'm crossing it off. Thanks again.