I am glad some things make you too sad to write. Things like Vamp!Connor/Angel, let's say. Because your writing makes me *feel* things, makes me *believe* things, and once I saw this, I would never be able to unsee it and then I would be Sad!KITA Forever.

I don't think I agree with you re A/S and tenderness. The scene in Damage, by Spike's bedside, was one of the most tender moments I've seen for either of them. Granted, it's few and far between. But I think it's possible, believable, and canonical. You just have to be really careful about it. And afterward, they would have to punch eachother in the face.