B. It'd be a normal Mary Sue if I made your qualities sue-like (too good); but what if I wrote a story where you-actually-you got it on? Mary Sue=/=self-insert, so it doesn't cover everything. If you went self-insert to the point of "My name is daroga and I live in Seattle but Spike dropped in one day and my husband was like whoa..." then that'd be RPF au. Right?
C. Yeah, I've heard that. Tanith Lee has said she doesn't like it, but she hasn't done anything about it. I struggle with whether the respect peoples' wishes in situations like this.
J. Let's do it!
K. I have some trouble with comics, too; but there's one I should send you, I think. Anyway I'm not visual enough, so I tend to gloss over the pictures and focus on the words, which are not the best part of comics. So I fail.
U. DON'T TELL ME WHAT I WILL OR WON'T LIKE *bitchslap* /abusive slavedriver

Although it sounds somewhat appalling.