I've never been in love before and yet I feel like I have a rather mature view of love; I've never seen Buffy and Angel as that shiny happy couple.
For me, it was like this: I thought I had a mature view of love, then I fell in love, and all of that went out the window. I couldn't control myself and couldn't help myself and hated myself because I thought I was being immature. But I think that happens to a lot of people; that's just the way love is for most. But what truly matters is what happens afterwards: if you expect always to be a shiny happy couple, you're never going to be happy. If you can accept the fall-out--the what happens once that 'can't help myself' wears off--and keep accepting it every time your lover disappoints you or something goes wrong--that's real love. And I think that's what Buffy and Angel have.
I really hate when people compare the stories because I just say, "hey, Romeo and Juliet had this ideal 'love at first sight' and didn't even know each other and then killed themselves because they couldn't live without each other."
I hate it when people compare the stories, too, but for kind of a different reason. I think R&J had more than love at first sight--they had a connection; they had a lot of what Buffy and Angel had S2 (this is just imo! :o) But they didn't have enough to sustain themselves (and, by extension, their love) once what I'm calling the "fall-out" came. Romeo wasn't strong enough, didn't love Juliet enough, and didn't believe enough in her love for him to believe that she would want him to go on and be happy without her--and maybe she wouldn't have, because their love was just not that strong to be that unselfish. And the exact same goes for Juliet.
And the fact that they could move on in no way indicates a lack of love because it's something we all go through in life - the people we love die but we keep going because we have to.
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I've never been in love before and yet I feel like I have a rather mature view of love; I've never seen Buffy and Angel as that shiny happy couple.
For me, it was like this: I thought I had a mature view of love, then I fell in love, and all of that went out the window. I couldn't control myself and couldn't help myself and hated myself because I thought I was being immature. But I think that happens to a lot of people; that's just the way love is for most. But what truly matters is what happens afterwards: if you expect always to be a shiny happy couple, you're never going to be happy. If you can accept the fall-out--the what happens once that 'can't help myself' wears off--and keep accepting it every time your lover disappoints you or something goes wrong--that's real love. And I think that's what Buffy and Angel have.
I really hate when people compare the stories because I just say, "hey, Romeo and Juliet had this ideal 'love at first sight' and didn't even know each other and then killed themselves because they couldn't live without each other."
I hate it when people compare the stories, too, but for kind of a different reason. I think R&J had more than love at first sight--they had a connection; they had a lot of what Buffy and Angel had S2 (this is just imo! :o) But they didn't have enough to sustain themselves (and, by extension, their love) once what I'm calling the "fall-out" came. Romeo wasn't strong enough, didn't love Juliet enough, and didn't believe enough in her love for him to believe that she would want him to go on and be happy without her--and maybe she wouldn't have, because their love was just not that strong to be that unselfish. And the exact same goes for Juliet.
And the fact that they could move on in no way indicates a lack of love because it's something we all go through in life - the people we love die but we keep going because we have to.
Yep, that does sum it up perfectly.
Thanks again!