You definitely did the right thing. The nicest, most polite people are usually the serial killers. I know. I watched a whole program on Discovery Health once about psychopaths. ;) They talked about Jeffery Dahmer, Ted Bundy and BTK and how “normal” they seemed but then they showed brain scans of murderers and multiple murderers and showed you how Abnormal their brains generally were, of course there were exceptions. They showed clips of trials and they were alternately charming and very detached about murdering people. So, you never can tell. When I see people stranded on the side of the road and it’s really late then I’ll call Highway Patrol and let them know that a car is stranded rather than stop. Unfortunately, you have to be very, very careful regardless of height.

I am so the opposite about giving gifts. I LOVE gifting but really only when it’s unexpected (part of the reason I dislike Valentine’s Day so much is the obligatory trade of the Meaningful Gift). I like seeing things that remind me of people and sending it to them. But I can see how it’s difficult. With new friends I always feel a little tentative at first and it’s always because of the things you went over. I don’t want someone to think I’m coming on to them or that I’m odd (well I am but still) because random giftage! I just like giving gifts. I’m likely to forget or miss sending you something for your birthday or Christmas, but you’re also very likely to get random gifts to celebrate you being you. YAY!!

But the key to enjoying gift giving, I think, is to learn to let to go once it’s done. Yes, you want the person to like the gift, but once it’s in the mail just forget about it. Done, out of your hands. Don’t worry about it.

So, I say Go For It!! Buy the homeless guy a sandwich, if you have the extra cash. Bring your co-worker a coffee. Why not! Plus! People really love random acts of kindness. I also really like the last two suggestions for donating to a shelter on a larger scale.