Livejournal Questions

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This actually has nothing to do with the recent drama.

I have a confession to make. I'm a genius. But I'm really tragically stupid also.


-how to put on a header. And why everyone can figure it out but me.
-what a DDoS attack is. Looked it up on Wikipedia. Still really don't understand.
-where everyone gets the equipment to do all the icons and everything they do. Seems to me that stuff costs a fortune.
-how to write short fanfic.
-who Rodney is.
-Henry Jenkins.
-GIP.
-how NOT to hotlink some images. I can do it if the image is in a format Photobucket will upload, otherwise I don't understand.
-how people keep up with their flists.
-how people keep up with stuff like which new cat macro is funniest.
-how anyone keeps up with anything.
-why seraphcelene can't be here RIGHT NOW, I dunno, making pie with me.
-how people find out people are talking about them when said people are not talking to them. It's not that I don't like gossip. It's that I don't understand it. I literally seem to have trouble paying attention to anything not aimed straight at me with a missile launcher.
-why I like Harry/Draco.
-flangst.
-how people not being able to post really isn't connected to the Great Strikethrough.
-how to play most online videos, or dl the equipment.
-birthdays.
-why I didn't find a plane ticket to NYC for an earlier day so I could watch DB with a2zmom.
-Spike.
-betas.
-most emoticons.
-who Jo is.
-what Due South is.


In other news, The Sound of Music in Sparta. (link courtesy imnotacommittee.)

Comments

[stefanie-bean.livejournal.com]

Wow - you are one of those people who can sit down and write 30,000 words off the top of your head. Awesome. I am thinking of doing National Novel Writing Month coming this November, just to see what I come up with under pressure to be logorrheic.

Amazing - someone else who doesn't like the conflict/reconciliation model of romance. It's very implausible. People IRL who would fight that much at the beginning of a relationship generally don't stay together. Most people (unless they have anger issues or problems with strong internal love/hate conflicts) want someone they can feel at ease with, as well as someone with whom to explore mutual attraction.

Then there's the issue, if a man especially gets turned on by fighting and aggression and sarcasm - is he really an "ideal" romantic partner? I don't read romance novels, usually, but I did read one based on Beauty and the Beast (the hero has acromegaly, a pituitary disease that causes overgrowth of bone.) These two fought like cats and dogs! Most mild-mannered men (as he was) wouldn't stand for that.

I think the romance fantasy (from the woman's POV) is that she can be as mean to the guy as she wants, and he'll still be attracted to her. But women who try that IRL are sometimes going to be sadly surprised.

I'm not sure narrative has to be boring or uninteresting if the two lovers just *like* each other from the start. Obviously there are going to be conflicts, but in my experience most conflicts at the very beginning lead to the two just moving on; most more serious conflicts come after they've gotten to know each other for a time and now find that their "ideal" partner has a mind/will of his or her own. They have to learn to live together instead of just coasting on the "honeymoon effect."

[tkp.livejournal.com]

I've never done NaNo, mostly 'cause I've got several projects of over 60,000 words sitting on my hard drive. 30,000 is where I usually burn out, though--because I get bored of what I'm doing, not because I don't have 270,000 more words to say. Before I am insufferably loquacious.

Amazing - someone else who doesn't like the conflict/reconciliation model of romance.

There are many like us in the world! I started thinking about this a lot in my main fandom, Buffy. In the show, Buffy instantly falls for this guy Angel. During their relationship they run into a lot of obstacles and had lots of problems with each other, but deep down they will always love each other. Buffy's other big love interest is Spike, whom she hates at first, with whom she fights and quarrels and has a lot of hate!sex with. For the most part people either ship Buffy with one guy or the other. The reason I bothered to describe this is I really think it highlights a fundamental divide in women's approach to fictional romance.

I say fictional, because those who prefer the conflict/reconciliation model don't necessarily prefer bad boys or those with whom they don't get along irl, and vice versa. I think a lot of your reasons for why the conflict model would never work irl are really valid, but I'm not sure that's actually why I don't prefer that model. It's just...what I like.

I'm not sure narrative has to be boring or uninteresting if the two lovers just *like* each other from the start.

Oh definitely, it doesn't *have* to be. But another trend I've noticed about women's preferences re: fictional romance is the plots driven by internal obstacles vs plots driven by external obstacles. Some people like to argue that the conflict model is ALWAYS about internal obstacles and that the like-each-other-from-the-start model is ALWAYS about external. I disagree, but it does seem to me that it often happens that way. Which sucks, because I prefer internal obstacles being the reason a couple can't get together, rather than external circumstances. This is why I don't really like Romeo and Juliet, even though that couple has right-off-the-bat affection.